It seems so obvious

There a couple of other chapters in the book like

He's not into you if he's disappearing.

Obvious right? Not really. When The BD was living with me a week after our daughter was born he invited a bunch of our friends over to see the baby. He made dinner, he bought wine, he said he was going over to his friends house to pick something up and he would be back in an hour. He was gone a week. No phone call, no nothing. I blame this on my hormones that I even cared that he wasn't dead. Well that and the fact that if was going to die, I felt it was only fair that it be at my hands. I have always wanted to run away, but ya know, I never have. I have always had the decency to tell my partner "Hey you suck, I'm outta here" cause I'm sweet like that.

He's a selfish jerk, bully or freak

Again, obvious right? Again, not really. I dated a guy in college who thought it would be cute to throw me up against a wall. I was 19 when that happened, and I had the good sense to get to steppin. When I was 34 I got into a little disagreement about a cell phone. I wanted it, he didn't think I needed to touch it, I thought he was stupid, he thought I was a bitch (you get the picture). When I finally got the cell phone and ran down the hall, he came barrelling up behind me and grabbed me. Knowing full well that there was no way I could get away from him I did the only thing I could do, I rammed him into the door about three times and took off running. Now had I done the SMART thing at that point, called the police, he would have been gone right then and there. Sadly, I had decided to sell my dignity so I wouldn't have to be alone. I didn't call and it took another four long painful months to get him the hell out. Really big freaks and abusers should always be avoided.

I have rehair extensionsad this book five times in the last four years. Every. Single. Time. I remember why I have to read it again. I don't pay attention. I make excuse for my bad judgement and choices. When I decided last year to abstain from sex, the entire idea was to quit getting sucked up into a vortex of sheer stupidity. To get OK with the fact that I was alone. To really get OK with it. I told Leslie yesterday...

I will not base my self worth on a phone call or a text message, and I will not be made to feel badly about my self because I didn't get them. I am not going to do it any-fucking-more. I'm better than this and I know it.

We are that bandwagon now. I would like to say I'm cured, but I'm not. like with any addiction, it won't ever go anyway. I will never NOT answer the phone in the middle of the night. I doubt seriously that I will ever NOT continue to pick the shadiest of characters. My EH was a cocaine addict, my BD was a meth addict, and the dog/steroid dealer, well that is kind of self explanatory. I guess I'm not a lot different from them, and certainly not any smarter.

There was another book written called "Be Honest you're not really that into him either." It was stupid, I hated it. Someone needs to write a book with chapters like

He sucks if he makes you cry
He sucks if you catch an STD
He sucks if he's a whiny crybaby narcissist
He sucks if he is a rude demanding slob
He sucks if he eats all of your food
He sucks if he never ever ever pays
He sucks if knocks up anothercurly hair extensions woman while you are pregnant
He sucks if he knocks another woman up while you are dating
He sucthe original of hair extensionsks if he drinks your whiskey and doesn't buy more
He sucks if he borrows money and doesn't pay you back
He sucks if he asks for money...ever
He sucks if he can't explain himself
He sucks if he's in prison
He sucks if he won't choose you over his booze/drugs/women
He sucks if he can't do what he says he's going to
and the single most important chapter
He sucks if you only have sex when he wants to

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